“I need to be silent for a while, worlds are forming in my heart.” — Meister Eckhart
Early in 2013, this quote gave voice to the yearning inside me to not just slow down, but STOP. To be still and silent, to find solitude. I became a curator of calm in my life and it’s made all the difference. If you’d like to curate some calm of your own, this page offers some approaches.
Weather Watching: Sit still and look out your window. Notice one thing and just watch it: how the rain drops hit the pavement, or the breeze rustles a tree, or the clouds move slowly. (If everything is perfectly still, watch that stillness.) Allow your gaze to relax.
Present Awareness: Stress arises when we allow our minds to revisit the past or jump ahead to the future — and we hang out in one or the other A LOT. When you feel stressed, notice your thoughts and emotions: Chances are you’re Past Perfecting (“I/she should have…”) or Future Freaking (“What if…?”). Just notice, label it without judgement, and come back to the present where it’s usually calm.
I found this really helpful when I first began meditating. The woman’s voice is nice and gentle, and her message very simple: “Now is the time to simply be.” You set the length of time (from 5 to 20 minutes), and select voice-only or voice with music or nature sounds.
Relax Now — Pocket Hypnotherapy
This 27 minute recording will guide you into deeper and deeper relaxation. Great to fall asleep.
Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World that Can’t Stop Talking
This book helped me understand, embrace and honor my need for quiet. Even though I’m a social person, to recharge I need my three S’s: stillness, silence and solitude.
The Untethered Soul: The Journey Beyond Yourself
Michael A. Singer
This book taught me to step back from my emotions and simply observe them. At first I was leery, I didn’t want to admit any negative thoughts (“think positive!”). But the funny thing is, when we identify emotions without judging them or trying to fix them, they just release and scatter. And we’re left with calm.
Living in the Light: Follow your Inner Guidance to Create a New Life and a New World
Each of us has an intuitive self, an inner wisdom. This book shows that the key to being guided by that wisdom is to become aware of all the parts of ourselves, including the “shadow side” we often ignore.
Still not zenned out?
Try checking out a few of my favorite sites.
The Daily Flame: Messages from Your Inner Pilot Light
These short messages in my inbox are like little hugs of reassurance. They are often the very message I need to hear right then.
Twice a week Leo Babauta shares his personal insights about living more simply. His words are always kind and calming.