Before you Botox…

Forehead wrinklesOkay, I’ll admit it. From time to time (like seeing this picture of myself) I’ve been tempted to try Botox. I haven’t, mostly because I could never get past the fear that someday, some study is going to prove that injecting a form of botulism is just not a good idea. Well, that day is here. Although the findings aren’t what I expected.

My discovery started with reading Siri Carpenter’s article “The Confidence Game” in O, The Oprah Magazine (September 2011). The piece is about improving self confidence by changing your body posture. More on that in a minute. But within that context, there was this intriguing bit about Botox:

“One study found that subjects who received Botox treatments that blocked their ability to mimic emotional expressions were subsequently poorer at recognizing others’ emotions.” [Read about the study here.]

Weird, right? Botox makes you less able to discern when someone around you is confused, happy, concerned or surprised. So you’d be less wrinkly, but less empathetic. Basically, with Botox you become pretty and shallow. Just what the world needs more of.

Maybe you’re okay with that. Maybe, you rationalize, lack of empathy is a small price to pay for beauty. But our own facial expressions provide crucial feedback to the brain not just about others, but about ourselves, as well. We usually let our minds tell our bodies how to behave, but our body movements can also tell our brains how to think. You’ve probably heard of the notion that the simple act of smiling can make you feel happy. Now, according to Carpenter’s article, research is proving that a pose or a posture actually creates a biochemical reaction in the body.

Psychologists Dana Carney, PhD, and Amy Cuddy, PhD, had their subjects spend two minutes in one of two types of seated postures: open and expansive (leaning back and spreading their arms), or tight and constricted (shoulders hunched, hands clasped). The people sitting in the “power pose” increased their levels of testosterone, the hormone linked to assertiveness and energy, while their levels of cortisol, the stress hormone, fell. The outward appearance caused an internal change. Or, as Carney put it, “It seems to be about how you present yourself to others. But it’s really about what’s going on inside you.”

Which brings me back to Botox. Using Botox, we may present a face that’s flawless, unlined. But, I started wondering, if we lose our facial expressions — smiling, grimacing, questioning — might we eventually lose the corresponding emotion (happy, sad, inquisitive), too? What if, in addition to hampering our ability to read others’ emotions, Botox also lessens our ability to feel our own? Turns out, this has already been proven.

Yikes. The irony is hard to miss. What good is having no wrinkles if you can’t feel good about it?

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Cold Shoulder

As I write this I have an icepack strapped to my shoulder. Tennis injury? you might ask. And I wish I could say yes. Only I can’t. Because that’s not how I hurt my shoulder.

I hurt it sleeping. Yes, sleeping. I just woke up and it hurt. Really bad. Like can’t-move-my-arm-beyond-a 15-degree-angle bad. And it’s remained this way for three days. I slept on my arm wrong and now my chiropractor thinks I have bursitis. (Cue the old Jewish accent: “Oy vey, my bursitis is acting up.”)

Side note: I’m thinking of starting a new blog called “You Know You’re Getting Old When…” It’ll be akin to Jeff Foxworthy’s “You Might Be a Redneck,” only not as funny because I’m not a redneck and it’s always more fun to laugh at someone else. But if you’re not getting old then you’ll find it hysterical.

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On Writing: Backstory be gone! (Or at least later on.)

I was finally able to make the “Last Thursday of the Month” Pennwriters meeting in Robinson Township. Timons Esaias presented on plotting and I was furiously taking notes all over his handouts, especially when he started talking about backstory.

As writers, we struggle with dumping in too much backstory up front, which drags a story down. I’ve always understood this in theory, but I still had a tendency to think, “But the reader needs to know this!” Tim shared one sentence that frees me up:

The reader will assemble the logic in linear order — no matter what order we share it in.

Think of the movie Memento, where the entire story is told backward. As viewers we were able to hold on to various pieces of information and drop them in linear order as we figured things out. In the meantime, we were glued to our seats. Which is exactly the point (and power) of delaying backstory.

Move story forward, move backstory back.

Here’s Tim’s recipe for backstory success:

Take three paragraphs of backstory and cut it into tiny pieces. Drop those pieces into dependent clauses sprinkled throughout the manuscript. “He slid into his loafers — the same pair he wore the day she left him.” We now know a bit of backstory: he’s been dumped. But we don’t know why. Or when. To find out, we’ll need to read on.

Tim suggests keeping a notebook when you read, and jot down when (on what page) authors drop in these little tidbits of backstory.

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Indie vs. Amazon

This week, Seattle Mystery Bookshop refused to host a signing or stock books from Amazon’s new Thomas & Mercer mystery imprint. The owner of the store published his email exchange with an author about the topic:

http://seattlemysteryblog.typepad.com/seattle_mystery/2011/06/cant-shake-the-devils-hand-and-say-youre-only-kidding.html

The blog comments continue the intriguing conversation.  One, in particular, sums up my feelings on the subject: “This is a painful and necessary dialogue. As an author, I’m riveted and ambivalent.”

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This spring, green is the new sun.

Have you seen the latest in brights this season? Forget sunlight. That’s so last year. This spring in Western PA, the only brightness you’ll find is the full spectrum of green. If you still prefer sunny, better work on your disposition. They’re calling for rain all week. Again.

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I’m in the news…

Those close to me, who’ve had to listen to me obsess over co-coordinating the Pennwriters Conference, know the experience has not been quite as breezy and Zen-like as the reporter made it sound. I like her version so much better:

When West Deer technical writer makes a career move, it’s a real page turner -

By Tamara Simpson Girardi, FOR THE VALLEY NEWS DISPATCH
Monday, March 21, 2011

After attending the 2009 Pennwriters Conference, author Julie Long decided she should get more involved in the organization. But she didn’t realized how involved she’d get — that she’d be planning this year’s conference, which will be held in May.

Read more…

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The President ain’t no Puff Daddy

I’m not saying my blog post had anything to do with it. I’m just saying, Congratulations, Mr. President, I’m proud of you.

President Obama has finally kicked the habit.

“Yes, he has,” First Lady Michelle Obama proudly declared Tuesday when asked by reporters if it was true he quit smoking. “It’s been almost a year.”

Read more: http://www.nydailynews.com/news/politics/2011/02/08/2011-02-08_president_barack_obama_quit_smoking_for_past_year_first_lady_michelle_obama_reve.html#ixzz1DVPXuadP

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A funny thing happened on the way to those revisions.

February 1 was a significant day for me (and not because it’s the start of my birthday month, though I hope it proves lucky). It’s the day I began to query agents about my novel, Maharishiville. Which means my wonderful editor feels the story is ready for publication. Which means I finally worked on those revisions she gave me last April when she said I was close, very close, like 95% there.

Back then, I’d felt I was getting close because I’d gathered a few of what we writers refer to as “good rejections.” But something was missing and I wasn’t sure what it was. I was published in nonfiction but new to novels, so I turned to the professional editor for help. And, thankfully, she shed light on the solution.  I agreed with her suggestions wholeheartedly, and the changes weren’t even that complicated.

Why, then, did it take me six months to get around to making them?

The easy answer (not the real answer, mind you) was, I was busy. I said yes to co-coordinating this writers conference. And yes to co-authoring this nonfiction book. And yes to a big copywriting project. I said yes to just about anything that captured my interest other than the book. I even started this graduate program. Seriously, I went back to Grad School (and it wasn’t even for creative writing). I kept saying I wanted to revise the novel, but I was doing everything but that. And eventually, my plate overloaded, something had to give.

September found me overwhelmed and unhappy, with no one to blame but myself. And then I happened upon this gem of a book, written by award-winning mystery author Nancy Pickard and therapist Lynn Lott. The title may be The Seven Steps on the Writer’s Path, but the message is appropriate for anyone endeavoring to create anything (be it a manuscript or a change in life).

The first thing I learned was that unhappiness was Step One, and it was necessary and should be welcomed. (Well, so far, so good for me.) But I had trouble with Step Two: Wanting. A lot of people do. We’re taught that wanting is greedy and not attractive (I already have so many blessings in my life, who am I to want more?). As instructed, I labeled a piece of paper “I WANT” and began to list things without thinking. It became very obvious that what I wanted, more than all my other interests, was to write novels. I knew I reached Step Three, Commitment, when I changed my daily schedule (novel revisions began at 6 a.m. every weekday) and my job description (I am no longer a Copywriter, an identity I’d been clinging to because I was successful at it; I am now solely a Writer).  It became clear that my too-busy-to-revise antics of the prior six months had been a form of Step Four: Wavering. I got close to my novel goal and I got scared. Maybe of failing. Or maybe of succeeding. (I think, actually, it was a little of both.) But learning from the book, I was able to Let Go (Step Five) — of expectations, self-doubt, comparisons, etc. — and become happily Immersed (Step Six) in my novel again.

I incorporated the revisions (they took less than three months once I started!), had my editor re-read it and made a few more minor adjustments. And then it was ready. I’d arrived at Step Seven: Fulfillment.

Then, when it was time to write that query letter, wouldn’t you know it, I started getting “too busy” again. Luckily, I now know that we circle back through the seven steps over and over again. It’s just part of the process. But if we can recognize it, we’ll move through the steps that much faster. So I only stalled for a few days, and then yesterday I wrote the email. And I hit SEND. And then an agent emailed me back requesting three chapters.

It was a great start to February.


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Speaker of the House speaks up on his smoking habit

Somehow, it doesn’t seem that he really wishes he didn’t have the habit:

A person has to want to do something if they’re going to change. And that’s what’s troubling about both Boehner and Obama and their smoking habit. You don’t get the feeling they want to stop smoking. Individual lifestyle habits account for 70% of our nation’s healthcare costs, and two of our leaders working to reduce the costs won’t carry their own weight. The only way to reduce healthcare costs is to improve health. And we’re each responsible for our own.

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Hooray! Healthier school lunches!

Perhaps nudged by Jamie Oliver’s Food Revolution, for the first time in 15 years, the government is making major improvements in school lunch guidelines.

According to the Washington Post, some conservatives, including former Alaska Gov. Sarah Palin, have said that telling children what to eat in school is a case of government overreach. To me, that’s like saying schools shouldn’t tell kids what to learn. They can Google Justin Beiber over super-size fries on their own time. Maybe I should send Sarah Palin a copy of A Mouthful of Truth.

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